Your child comes home and you can immediately sense that something is wrong. He or she missed an important shot in a basketball game, performed poorly on a test, or struggled to learn a new song in band practice. As a result, he or she may be reluctant to talk about what’s happened. As a parent, you can easily picture this scene, because you’ve lived it. If you’re a parent who hasn’t experienced it first-hand yet, you will.
When something like this occurs, it’s important to pick your child up when he or she gets down. Although this seems like an easy thing to do, encouraging your child can actually be a bit more complicated than it seems. How honest should you be? Should you ignore talking about the event entirely? Would it be OK to help your child with the problem or should you let him or her figure it out alone?
These are difficult questions to answer, especially when you’re dealing with a crestfallen child. If you have had trouble answering these questions in the past or think you might have them in the future, consider these tips: